“My wife doesn’t want to spend time with me,” the confused husband said. That’s how you feel right now, isn’t it? Your wife is avoiding you. She feels like she’s doing what she can’t be with you. Obviously, it will have an impact on how you feel about her and about yourself. How could she not be like that? If the person you adore the most in the world simply doesn’t want to make the effort to spend more quality time with you, what does that say about the relationship? You have to change this. You have the ability to do it. All you need is an idea of how to change her wife’s feelings for her so that she longs to be with you again.
There’s a reason your wife doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore. In many cases this happens because the couple is struggling with a conflict that they can’t seem to find a solution to. Women tend to absorb things like this on a much deeper level than men. If the two of you had a disagreement and now feel like it’s over, don’t assume your wife feels the same way. It is possible that she is holding on to some grudge about it and that could be causing her to create distance between the two of you. If her change of heart occurred just as the two of you started debating a heated topic, it may be time to relent and apologize to her.
Your wife may also be avoiding spending time with you because the two of you have lost emotional contact with each other. If you never talk about the relationship and what’s going on with your partner, they may feel very distant from you. Instead of just sitting on the couch watching TV while she’s in the room, she plans time for the two of you to talk. It doesn’t have to be a serious conversation every time. Reconnect with her by talking about her job, her worries, and how she sees her marriage.
It is also very useful if you plan to do things that your wife really enjoys. If there are activities that she participates in and you refuse, it’s time to change that. By getting involved with her in her interests, you are showing her that you would do anything just to spend time with her. She needs and wants to feel that from you. It’s a simple change that can make a big difference in her marriage.