It is becoming increasingly evident that there is an invisible web of energy that unites us all. This web of energy is mentioned in books like Lynne McTaggart’s “The Field,” John Gray’s “What You Can Feel You Can Heal,” James Redfield’s “The Celestine Prophecy,” and even movies like “The Secret.” and “What the hell do we know.”

We know that we are affected by invisible forces. For example, we do not see the wind or the air we breathe. We do not see viruses in the air, nor bacteria in our food. Similarly, we do not see the invisible thread of energy that runs between us and those with whom we interact on a daily basis.

I began to understand the psychic connection between people about ten years ago, although I have known it on some level for most of my life.

I was on a massage table doing energy work and my therapist said I had so many psychic cords attached to me that I needed to get the lawnmower out. It was some kind of joke between us. Normally, when one performs a rope-cutting exercise, one uses an imaginary sword or scissors.

Just as the energy worker ran over my psychic energy field with the lawnmower, my narcissistic boyfriend jumped out of the waiting room he was in and ran in angry and disoriented. The next day, another emotionally vampiric ex-boyfriend contacted me via email, as did his ex-wife and his daughter. I was amazed at the power of this rather simple process. Those who had disconnected sensed me on some level and contacted me in an effort to reconnect.

Earlier that same month, a woman, who could see energy, saw a hose-like cord running from me to my boyfriend and said it was sucking my energy.

When I began to study narcissism and its psychic effects on the victim, I was able to see the power that those psychic chords had to influence our reality. I also saw the importance of separating or cutting those cords in order to be free from the continuous psychic effects of that relationship.

I went through a series of chord cutting exercises to break the psychic ties with my narcissistic ex-boyfriend. I could see how he would reconnect psychically even after six months of not seeing him. This would happen in my weaker moments when he would blame myself or feel bad about myself in some way. In a sense it would invite the connection again because there was a part of me that wanted it.

Unfortunately, the psychic connection between my ex-boyfriend and I was very unhealthy for me. It resulted in him feeling weak, powerless, obsessive, sad, depressed, tired and seeing myself as a failure. Cutting the psychic cords would restore my power and sense of self-confidence.

I realized that through this psychic connection I was taking on everything that he had always projected onto me. He owned his stuff, allowed the dark, murky waters of his emotional reality to flow into my energy field, contaminating my reality.

When we cut the psychic hose that pours the cloudy and toxic energy of an unconscious partner or ex-partner into our energy field, we can begin to see clear water once again. It was pretty clear that this narcissistic individual in my life needed to have someone to dump his pent up emotional toxicity onto in order to feel strong within himself. If he wasn’t throwing himself at me, he would throw himself at someone else.

Once we tune out those psychic and emotional chords, the person who has been borrowing our energy will feel a difference and may even know, on some level, that something just happened and it had to do with you. Often the phone will ring, or we’ll get an email, or it may even show up at the door. This is a time when we need to be particularly strong and keep our energy to ourselves.

Sometimes we need to repeat the process of cutting the psychic cords several times to completely free ourselves of the energy that is draining us. I think the process always works, even when we don’t feel an immediate difference. The only reason it may not seem to work, to some, is that they have become so used to the murky energy of the psychic vampire in their life that they invite the rope to be reattached.

We are comfortable with what is familiar to us and if we have established a pattern with an emotional or narcissistic vampire, we need to really understand how to break that connection and change the pattern.

I spoke to a woman who once described attachment as a gray cloud over her head and she was so used to this cloud that when it left she missed it and went looking for the cloud. It was as if having blue skies in her life was something unknown and something uncomfortable. We get used to our dark clouds and aren’t sure what to do when they’re gone. It’s the same reason that victims of abuse keep finding people who abuse them. It is familiar and comfortable.

So when you cut those psychic chords, you must be ready and willing to accept a change in your life. Something will be missing! But nature is always moving to fill a void in our lives. Prepare to accept something better. Invite something better into your life. Invite love, light and positive energy. It may take a while to get used to how this feels in your energy field, but once you adjust, you’ll be glad you sent the invite.