The answer may surprise you.

The disappointment I hear in the voices of women who are lonely and looking for romance in their lives is disturbing.

“Why do I keep attracting jerks and losers?” “All the men in my age group are either married or content to be single.” “What if I never find the love of my life?”

Oh.

There is a hidden key to finding the man of your dreams and believe it or not, it has nothing to do with your past lovers or the emotionally distant relationship you may have with your father. The key to finding a man who understands and loves you is to fully recover from the hurts of the women of your past.

What do you say? How can my friendships with women have anything to do with finding my soul mate? Let me tell you a story.

When Janna went to college, she felt very lucky. She hadn’t fit in with the cool kids in high school and she was a loner. However, college was different. She met people she could relate to and began to find friends. Naive and open, she began to trust these girls and allowed herself to be known more and more deeply. It was fun to come home to the bedroom and always find someone up no matter what time it was to share dates, guys and guys. These were times of great friendship and Janna blossomed.

Then out of the blue, Janna puts up a guy of her own. It was an instant crush. Every cell in her body vibrated when she thought of him. Body, mind and soul, all completely captured by this wonderful man. She fell hard, and luckily for her, so did he. Janna and Dan started hanging out as often as they could. They didn’t really hang out, they just hung out. It was comfortable and fun and I felt great. What happened after her with her friends took her completely by surprise. Janna’s roommate, Kate, was going through a complicated breakup with her longtime boyfriend at the time. Somehow, they saw the time Janna spent with Dan as an abandonment by Kate.

As they increasingly clarified their position, Janna faced a difficult choice. Her girlfriends or… her soul mate. Of course she likes Dan. He was the whole world of her. What time was it? The chemistry was strong and constant. They have each other. It was so easy to be together and they couldn’t get enough of each other. It was completely natural for them to spend more and more time together. And they do it like that.

Although the price was high. In the not fully informed decision making of a crowd of teenagers, Janna was cut from the group. At the time, it didn’t seem to matter. The hurt and disappointment were completely hidden by the overwhelming chemistry between Janna and Dan. The loss of the friendships, the support, the smiles, the participation, the fun of the bride was never addressed.

When Janna and Dan parted ways after an exciting, complicated, and significant period of time, Janna was not only left without her soulmate and girlfriends, but she also took a huge hit in the area of ​​trust. After all, she had chosen these girls and her soul mate and those choices were filled with drama and trauma. Unaware of the unspoken disappointment that still lay deep in her memory, Janna never trusted women again. By keeping her heart closed to other girls, she could take comfort in the knowledge that she couldn’t hurt herself like that again.

Fast forward ten, twenty years or so. Janna has now had many friends over the years, but few have kept to themselves. She is lonely and, to tell the truth, desperate to find a man to be with. She wants what she had with Dan. She wants to feel that emotion again. Wanting it is constant and intense. “Where is the?” She cries into her pillow at night. “Why can’t I meet him?”

Freeze frame:

The betrayal of women, by women, is the most damaging of emotional wounds. Self-protective postures and behaviors keep women at a distance from each other.

Ask yourself, how many women do I completely trust? Unless you are very different from most, you get a very low number. What the hell does all this have to do with your invisible soul mate? All.

When you get involved in a romantic relationship with an unconscious desire (which by its nature is naive and open, bless him) to fulfill the roles of girlfriend and boyfriend, the result is always devastating. Whether it ends sooner or later, the results are the same. The relationship is lopsided and, without help, pretty doomed.

Not many men will be attracted (in the invisible but very real world of energy signs) to you with this sign. Men run from need every time. They can’t be everything to you and you wouldn’t want a man who thought he could. Trust me.

They read it with their Man Radar. Yuck, you say, I don’t want to radiate that! Are you ready to start doing things differently? How serious are you about finding your soul mate?

Take inventory and see how many of your past female friendships ended badly. Check with your heart to see if past betrayal still hurts. Are you holding back on your soul mate search because the pain of a broken heart seems worse than being alone? Learning to open your heart to women again will put you on the fast track to receiving the man the Universe has been trying to bring you.

Before you say you don’t have a problem with mean girls, ask yourself this question: Why am I still single?