As I sit here and just reflect on how my heart aches to see women walk around in beautiful clothes, flawless makeup, and great work, and man, but deep down inside, they still feel like they’re missing something. See, having all that, you would think the woman was passing by when you look at the outside. But oh, when she comes home and she has to look in the mirror, that woman looking back at her doesn’t look so glamorous. I mean, she used to walk around with her hair done, her nails and toes done, dressed badly, and only made a little bit of money, so it looked like she was on, well guess what? This was passing my time of brokenness and I was a ragged mess!

This kind of life for me when it lasted for years and got out of control, I was so focused on not letting anyone see my pain that I masked it. Now, that was really dangerous because whenever I felt a little bit down, I’d go out and shop, I’d buy all kinds of things and stuff. Once I got home I was now even more depressed because now I was trying to figure out what and he. I just spent $300 to $500 on this mess. Notice that all of these were materialistic articles and that all of this was strictly trying to cover up all the pain that I felt inside. Newsflash, no amount of money, men, drugs, sex, or anything can make you love and know yourself. So, keep reading because I want to share with you some ways how not knowing yourself will put you and put you in danger.

3 Signs that you don’t know yourself…

You constantly need the approval of others. Now, this is so dangerous because you don’t allow yourself to make any kind of decisions because you fear what they will say. Or better yet, whenever you do a great job at something, instead of patting yourself on the back, you don’t wait and look for others to do it. Well, this right here can hurt and paralyze you and prevent you from stepping out of the box and taking risks. Look, you have to learn to be your biggest fan and if others cheer you on, great, but if not, you can do it yourself.

You sleep with every man who says something sweet to you or gives you money. I could go on and on about this, but I won’t. I will share with you that doing this type of act will only lead to one or two things; unwanted pregnancy, STDs, or more than anything, low self-esteem. Every time you allow a man into your sanctuary without any commitment or marriage, you are looking for that man to rescue you and save you from yourself. STOP, he is not responsible for your happiness or making you feel good about yourself. So, from this moment on, let him address his problems and then he can make wise decisions.

You’re afraid to show all the great things you’re good at. You make yourself small because you lack the confidence to show the world what you are made of. You’re afraid that people will think you’re all that and stuck up because you might upstage them. Or, sometimes, you stay in a lower paying job, for fear of your detractors. This right here is the fastest way for you to always be unhappy and dissatisfied with yourself. Stop worrying about what others think because that’s none of your business.