Dances provoke different feelings for different people. Some people are excited because they like social interaction. Others are nervous because they are less sure of that interaction. Asking a girl to a dance can be a treacherous ride and it’s probably best to keep the question direct rather than ramble on about something personal and weird like your uncle’s job at Terminix, the pest control service. Be direct, be honest, and don’t get discouraged if the first girl you ask is already seeing someone else. There are plenty of people to ask and even if you can’t go with your number one choice (or any girl), your friends will be there to back you up and show you a good time, date or not.
The first thing you need to do is figure out how you’re going to ask him. In general, girls appreciate a little basic creativity when it comes to this part, but you don’t need to go all out all the time. An easy way to ask a girl to a dance is to stick a note in her locker and then wait for her there at the end of school. If you like a less public idea, you can just walk up and ask him after class or after school. Most girls, even if they don’t want to go with you, will be polite.
After you figure out how you’re going to ask her, you might want to find out how likely she is to say yes. She talks to some of her friends and mentions that you’ve thought about asking her and seeing what they say. Most of the time, their friends can be your biggest allies and not even know it. If they tell you that he is going with another, ask another girl. If the girl seems genuinely excited that you asked her to the dance, that’s definitely a good sign and a green light to proceed.
One thing a lot of guys do after asking a girl to the dance is cut off communication until the actual dance. The best thing you can do after asking a girl to dance and getting an affirmative response is to talk to her and get to know her. It will make the dance a lot less awkward when the two of you get there and there might even be a chance that you’ll hang out afterwards. If a girl tells you that she does in the first place, she is obviously interested in meeting you.
In the end, be natural and relax. Asking a girl to a dance isn’t the biggest deal and definitely won’t make or break your high school careers. In five years, it won’t matter who you went to the dance with and people will have almost forgotten who went with whom and what happened at any of the dances they attended.