“You are here to engage in mutually supportive ties with other people, be it your family of origin or the network of friends, colleagues and acquaintances that you surround yourself with in your adult life.” -Ronelle Coburn, Destiny at your fingertips: discover the inner purpose of your life and what it takes to live it?
Are you a breeder?
This article is the first in a series on finding your purpose called “Could This Be Your Life Purpose?”
You can find out what your purpose is by having your hands read. Contrary to popular opinion, hand analysis will not predict your future. Richard Unger, author of LifePrints, created this hand analysis system and founded the International Institute for Hand Analysis.
The breeder …
The breeder, or the person with a family life purpose, is happier creating and forging close connections with others. If you are a family raiser, you are the glue that connects your family, your communities, or your tribe. You are the hub of the wheel in your groups.
Possible challenges …
(1) Being a loner, choosing to avoid close connections.
(2) Family drama: conflict, disappointments, strained relationships in your family or community.
(3) Unresolved childhood family problems, such as abuse, alcoholism, or family dysfunction.
(4) Codependency: be the one who nurtures others, but neglect yourself.
(5) Difficulty letting go of control, not letting others just be who they are. Wanting to insist that they think and react like you.
(6) Allowing people in your life to mistreat you in some way.
Question journal …
(1) What are some examples of the purpose of parenting in your life? Identify two or three and write them down here.
(2) Can you think of times when you experience the opposite of this energy? For example, do you tend to do it only in a self-protective way?
(3) Do you find yourself dealing with family drama or drama in your community groups?
(4) Do you have unresolved family problems of origin?
(5) Do you realize that you take better care of others than yourself? List some examples.
(6) Are you in a relationship or other situation where you allow other people to mistreat you?
(7) Do you have difficulty letting go of control? List any examples you can think of that you would like to insist that someone think like you, etc.
(8) To what extent do you think awareness of this life purpose dwells on a daily basis? Rate it on a scale of 1 to 10.
(9) To what extent are you able to integrate the energy of parenting with the work you do?
(10) What do you think prevents you from fully inhabiting the purpose of parenting?
(11) What can you do to inhabit it more?
If you answered “yes” to many of the questions in the journal and can recall experiences that match the description for this life purpose, then it may be a nutrient.