Why are we attracting the same conditions?

Everything that happens in our life reflects our inner state of being. It has to be so because no two people have the same lesson from their experience. Therefore, it emphasizes that what we think is externalized in our reality, let us be aware of it. Many people struggle with this idea and try to change external circumstances to match their inner state of being. For example, if we are not happy being single, we will look for a partner. If the relationship doesn’t meet our expectations, we might end it because it hasn’t met our needs. The same is true in other areas of life. We desperately try to change the world outside of ourselves, to make ourselves happy. But this is a recipe for disaster because the key to happiness is to reverse engineer the process.

We must first adjust our thoughts, then we will attract the ideal conditions that match our inner vision. Can you identify with this? Have you experienced something similar? It is a common situation because we are convinced that the only way to achieve happiness is to change external conditions. Unfortunately, we cannot change reality and therefore we can only control our inner state of being. Can you remember the childhood toy you played with called a shape sorter, in which you had to fit a circle, triangle, or square into its corresponding shape? The toy is helpful in building patterns of children’s motor skills. At first, some children have a hard time making a triangle fit into a square hole, but they eventually find the correct block.

I propose that we adopt a similar analogy and align our thoughts with our true desires, instead of trying to manipulate reality. Therefore, it is not our circumstances that determine the quality of our life, but how we respond to them. We must find out why we are attracting the same conditions. For example, do you repeatedly attract the same negative experiences? Could it be with your finances, health, relationships, or career? I know it’s frustrating because there was a time when I was attracting difficult experiences without knowing why. I was spinning my wheels and couldn’t see past my difficulties.

When I stopped trying to change external circumstances and accepted my problems, my life improved tremendously. I accepted that I was attracting undesirable circumstances and discovered why these patterns kept repeating themselves. I processed my childhood wounds where anger, resentment and shame operated and sabotaged my happiness. On a conscious level, I knew what I wanted my life to be, but my actions did not match my innermost thoughts. There was a discrepancy between what I wanted and what materialized in my life. So I looked at my old beliefs that were creating my difficult experiences and adjusted them to correspond to a new reality.

You are not powerless to change your life

I realize that may seem like a lot of hard work. But what’s the rush, if you keep repeating the same patterns and attracting negative circumstances? I am surprised when people say, “It was meant to be” because what I am hearing is resignation and apathy in their words. I am listening to someone who is not in control of their life and feels powerless to change their circumstances. The way we respond to our problems is based on our attitude. Our answer is how we reclaim control over our circumstances, instead of allowing them to defeat us. Life reflects our most intimate beliefs about reality. When people say that life is good or bad, I disagree because life is impartial. It is a hidden mirror that reflects what we have in our hearts and minds.

Do you have the feeling that you have more power than you think? Can you see that by directing your thoughts you change your life in a different direction? You don’t have to keep recycling under the same conditions. I am assuming that since you are reading this article, you are drawn to the message these words convey? I assume you want to make changes, but are afraid or don’t know what steps to take. And that’s fine. It’s okay to be scared and not know how to get out of your current circumstances; it means you will keep looking for answers. But don’t believe for a second that you are powerless to change your life. It may seem that way from your current position because you are focused on the problem, not the solution.

So here is an exercise that I encourage you to undertake, if you really want to overcome your current challenges. In a recent blog post through his website, researcher and speaker Dr. Joe Dispenza invites us to answer five questions about our current challenges. I recently completed the exercise on a current issue and found it valuable to look at my situation from a fresh perspective. Instead of dwelling on the problem, I was able to see how it was contributing to my personal growth. In fact, I came up with five advantages that the problem was bringing to my life. So after you finish reading this article, take 10-15 minutes and complete the questions. See if you can find the hidden treasure contained within your current problem. Give yourself the gift of responding to your challenges differently. Only when we get out of the box and see our problems from a new perspective, will we change our lives completely.