If your boyfriend is a flirt, chances are you knew it when you met him. What do you do to tame this habit? The answer may surprise you, but the answer is nothing. Either you have to learn to live with it or let it go. Chances are, if you get too attached to a man who flirts, he’ll go to greener pastures, where he can be more of himself.
For example, I used to be a cocktail waitress, so I’ve watched men on their worst behavior. Many times, the waitress is encouraged to take a picture with her high paying customers, and many times, that is what I did. I also flirted for tips. I’ve seen men take off their wedding rings, turn off cell phones and put them away, and lie outright about their girlfriends or wives, even if they’re at the bar with them. I’ve been swiped business cards with credit cards in the hope that I can call one of these dirty guys. I never called any of them. I knew they didn’t mean it and I’m one of those rare women who really respects the bond of a relationship.
Men and women tend to get a little stupid when it comes to alcohol. I always used the bar as my safety net. Although not all women are like me. Not all women care if your man is in a relationship. This is what I noticed in the differences between nice guys who flirt and dirty guys who want to cheat.
Some guys like to be kept on a short leash. Not the flirting. Flirting needs to be kept in check, but he needs plenty of room to roam. A lot of times a nice guy flirts by flirting with the waitress or bartender because he knows it’s like flirting with a stripper. His attention is nice as long as he tips appropriately. You have to wonder how this makes you feel. How about the fact that he’s giving his money to a complete stranger? A beautiful stranger, often exotic and sexy. Instead of seeing it as a huge blow to their relationship. Consider it from a healthier perspective. Your guy needs to feel sexy, and if he goes out and spends his money on it, and has money to spend on it, then you might consider that a version of therapy for him.
Men want attention the same way women do. They long for someone to tell them how sexy they are. They long for someone to shower them with attention, even if the attention is short-lived. You have to ask yourself if you’re providing that, and if not, expect him to go out and find someone who does, if only for a second.
Also, before you start thinking he’s a total cheater, most guys aren’t really cheaters. In fact, men get attached to women very easily. Especially when they are in a relationship. They generally don’t cheat. In fact, most men, if asked to move on with someone they’ve been flirting with, will cringe. The idea of being with someone new is exciting, but men are logical. If they have a good thing for you, they’re not going to give it up for a stranger.
The best way to catch a guy with a wandering eye is to let your eye wander with his.
For example, my boyfriend and I were having coffee. A beautiful young blond woman was in line behind us. I watched my boyfriend shuffle her feet and look away from her as if he didn’t want to be caught looking at her. I whispered in her ear that she was extremely beautiful and I saw her too. Instantly, he calmed down and didn’t look at her again. I put a name to what she was thinking and she calmed down.
My boyfriend is extremely attractive and I have seen women flirt with him right in front of me. What should I do? I flirt with the woman who is flirting with my man. This can really get some of the ill-intentioned ladies out of your way. Basically, if you join forces with the woman who flirts, you have a better chance of keeping your man around. If you complain and get jealous, he will surely get sidetracked. He acts like he doesn’t bother you. Trust your boyfriend unless he gives you a reason not to. Just like women, men also like a little attention. As long as the attention is harmless, give your guy the benefit of the doubt and make him feel like a stud from time to time.
The other side of the corner is the garbage. They’re out there and they’re actually pretty easy to spot. In my next article, I’ll talk about the warning signs of a litter.